Is Love A Choice or A Decision?

So, on Saturday for my Public Speaking class I had to do a demonstration speech. I taught the class to play 13 Up but before it was my turn one of my fellow classmates presented her speech. She had two poster boards. The one poster board had a figure on it intact while the other one had the figure in different pieces. Very symbolic by the way. She starts her speech by saying "Love is a decision not a choice". She explained to the class we have to start with valuing ourselves before anyone else can. She mentioned how she was in a relationship that was going nowhere fast. The boy was verbally abusive and mistreated her constantly. She said one day she woke up and asked herself why was she letting this happen and up and left him. Smart girl, she got herself out of it. She went on to say more stuff to validate her point and it made sense. It was time now to ask her questions. So, I asked her why she thought love was decision not a choice? She said because you can decide whether or not you will fall in love with the person you just met but knowing some things about them. I disagreed thoroughly. I mentioned to her how I watched a documentary about 5 to 6 years ago on love and it's been proven love is really not a choice. It's all about chemistry. The left side of your brain actually shuts down when you are in love...hence the term love is blind. Women who have children are blinded by their love for their children. This why some kids are horrible and the parents will sit there and tell you, "No, my Jimmy is a good boy", mind you Jimmy is the school bully. Anyways, apparently we give off a smell that attracts the people we attract. Once this happens our chemistry goes haywire. You fall in love and for 2 years you are madly in love. Then something happens...your brain wakes up! You start seeing the person you are in love with in a different light and this is where the trouble comes in. Before, you saw this person as beautiful and all knowing; now you see them as something else. The scientists doing the experiment at one point took pictures of the couples and distorted some of the pictures and only one picture was what the person actually looked like. Well, for those who were recently in love chose the "nicer" looking picture of their partner. The ones who were no longer in love, chose the uglier of the pictures, and the oldest couple there chose the actual pictures of their partner that was not distorted at all. They asked the older couple who been married over 30 years what their secret was and they said once the love starts to vanish you have to actually work at your relationship. That's when the real love comes in and gets proven. This is where the 2 year itch comes in. Couples break up and marriages go to shit after this point. The couple basically were like if you can't see past all their faults you didn't see before you fall in love then you will never be happy with anyone. Love takes time and effort. It's not a choice or decision; it is a feeling that over takes oneself and it blinds us for a couple of years but if you really see the person you are with as worth it, well then prove that they are worth something to you. Everyone falls in love at one point or another its a matter of you not being selfish and righteous but of being willing to share in this new feeling you have. Love will always blind you, if it didn't then of course we would be "falling in love" with every person we laid eyes on. Don't you think?